Dirty Little Secrets

Last night I bought the domain name for the new site I mentioned previously on Selfish. I’m not going to tell you what it is just yet, not because it’s a secret but more because it’ll probably be another few weeks before I can do anything with it. And I’m not trying to build up the excitement here, I just wanted to let you know I’m making progress and not just sitting on my backside stuffing my face with chocolate cake.

I haven’t been online much recently, and actually, that’s something I’m enjoying – and that’s dirty little secret No 1. I’ve made a deliberate effort to keep a low profile, firstly so that I can make sure I get the Stay At Home Dad stuff done (thereby ensuring my immediate happiness and the happiness of my family) and secondly so that I can spend more time writing.

Which leads me to dirty little secret No 2, which is: I’ve got a few other sites on the go. I’ve got half a dozen sites which are active, and another 10 or so domain names to be activated at some point in the future. The half a dozen sites are nothing special, and nothing I want to be known for, but they will come to serve a key purpose over the coming years. The writing for these sites isn’t arduous but it’s essential to devote time to this project now, if it’s to pay off in the future.

Having previously got so heavily involved in what I imagined to be the only model for successful blogging, I now note with interest that my excursion into the web has taken me in a totally different direction than I thought it would, but this is largely due to the fact my initial direction took me somewhere I wasn’t ready to go – marriage threatening territory!

This new direction is better

Being online less but getting more done is very satisfying. Being a selfish blogger has helped me to find the time to write and to build and to plan. On the other hand my decision not to go out and do the rounds, posting comments on other people’s blogs is the downside of being a selfish blogger. I miss that aspect of blogging but I will get back to it when the time is right. Initially I’ll probably get out to one or two places where most of my bloggy friends hang out and then I’ll take it from there.

And on the subject of bloggy friends, a few of them saw fit to mention my name in their blogs recently and being selfish, I didn’t even go and say thank you!

I reasoned they wouldn’t mind too much as long as I gratuitously linked back to their sites from my own – which in terms of blogging currency, is probably of more value to them.

The lovely Tara Cain, who has a link on her blog to the fabulous Boden site, pointed out that I’d returned to blogging but questioned whether it’s a good thing. And the answer is YES! It’s a bloody good thing Tara! Seriously though, Boden make excellent clothes, they’re fantastic quality and very good to look at so go and have a look via Tara’s site. I tell you this because my third dirty little secret is: I only visit Tara to get to Boden – Don’t tell her though!

Those magnificent men and their writing machine, otherwise known as the creative writing site “Collective Inkwell” each gave me a mention on their personal sites. Those talented men are:

Sean Platt who has just unveiled Writer Dad 2.0. I’ve had a peak at the new look and I like it very much – but what I’m really interested to see is where he’s taking the site and how he plans to tackle the subject of Children’s Writing – as naturally I want each of my own children to have the ability to write well.

And David I hate cats Wright who has busied himself with the blog design at Collective Inkwell and also at Writer Dad. Great job x 2 Dave!

As I was getting ready to hit publish with this post I saw that my friend Adrenalynn over at Rainy Day has dropped a post in which she ‘outs’ me for an unselfish act.

So my last dirty little secret is that I’m not Selfish at all – I just pretend to be. Drop in and find out why Lynn says I’m “the awesomest guy on the internet”. Thanks for saying that Lynn

So, those are all the dirty little secrets I’m prepared to share with you at the moment but I encourage you to post your own dirty little secrets on your own site (or here) – it’s a very cathartic experience!